I'm sorry he's being a stubborn jerk and no, you didn't make the wrong choice you did the best with the information you were given.
If he hid himself and parts of who he is/how he acted that is on him, not you.
I will say either nip it in the bud and set your foot down now or it does get worse. People coddled by their parents wont change unless they want to, and if it's too comfortable for him.. welp he might be a lost cause.
Sadly the keeping your distance and giving strict boundaries is all you can overall do, and hopefully he'll realize how badly he screwed up. The will to change and keep change has to be from him/inside him though, alas.

It's also part of why my mom and one of her exes broke up, he was so complacent just living in his parents' place because "Well I make some money and when they die the house is going to me anyway, so why should I move out?" among other reasons.

Def do your best to protect you and don't get swept up in it all, we all care for and are rooting for you and you deserve to be treated wonderfully, not minimized and ignored.

Also if he keeps up the "it's unimportant" bits... try treating something you don't care for but he does the same way and turn it around on him and be all "And this is what you were doing to me this whole time. It ends now or something else ends." kinda things. ;w;

As many have said - you need to clearly tell your husband what worries you, what angers you and how you think this should be fixed (approached). But first of all ask him if he really wants to work in the shop. If he doesn't, then you should talk about what he would like to do and how he sees your future together, what compromises each of you can do to support each other.

Also, I know it's hard, but maybe defend your husband in front of her, and say you like it the way he handles things and you trust him. Maybe try to turn every of her complains into a joke. So she would see that she has to talk to him herself, and that you have her son's back :) And tell her if she continues bossing you around you'll not produce her any grandchildren (￢‿￢ ) (≧▽≦). Sorry. I don't really know how to help you with the she-devil (｡•́︿•̀｡). But you should stand up for yourself. If someone is using your kindness to manipulate you, and you know they do, it's your responsibility to defend yourself. Or be used forever (×_×)

P. S.: Visiting washroom seems like a valid reason to leave work to me xD. Also, I personally find smiling shop keepers creepy (≧▽≦). Polite is enough for me.

hi! stay healthy too 
it seems difficult at first of marriage ? i hope it solve soon 
im not good at talking... so i really hope you can do what you want to and remember to stay healthy! 

Hey SweetChiel! :)

Thanks as always for your weekly updates.

Just read your latest update too, which by the way is not online on Patreon. Last week I was wondering why I didn't get a notification. 

So thanks for your openness/transparency as well. I personally don't feel uncomfortable. :)

The first "darn" year seems to be difficult everywhere. 

First, I hope you guys can work this out together. Communicating is always the first best way and certainly getting distance to approach the problem calmly and objectively.

Maybe it also helps if he can't comprehend it to show him. So let him slip into the role of the customer. This works well with video, for example, or with a role play to re-enact the situation. Also good is always the perspective of another person. Someone uninvolved can usually reflect a person's external image more objectively.

A conversation with your mother-in-law would certainly also be quite good. Personally, I find it a bit strange that she is "bothering" you with this, so to speak. On the other hand, I think maybe she has been trying to correct exactly the same problem for a long time and hasn't been able to do it, so she has been biting on "granite" so far and hopes that you might be able to fix it. 

In any case, I wish you good luck in resolving the conflict.

<3 Yanonako

I really have to thank you for your weekly updates, I always look forward to reading them and seeing how far you've come. I really hope you and your husband can figure out your differences, I always feel like communication is the biggest and most important part of every relationship, but sometimes it can be hard. Maybe the time apart will actually help you and give both of you different perspectives or maybe you could include a third uninvolved person for more perspective? (Not like your in-laws or family, someone who is not involved in the problem at all?) 

I wish you the best of luck with resolving the conflict as well as your continued process on bermuda! And of course, stay healthy! :)